Welcome to Really Human

Let me start with a poem I once wrote: Friendship Simplicity insists on radical truth A soil manured and flecked in joyous interaction Minds grapple, tease, shudder and rebuild Hearts simmer, bloom, co-exist and lie in sensitive exposure Globally connecting with Friends Inc. Is this the Way … … Across divides of colour, creed and cultural bias … … Through fogs of F-off Zones and cracked boundary-settings … Café chat and mobile lin [ ... ]

Angry is the feeling which harnesses the most powerful energy when understood and used positively.  Why? Feeling angry is an alarm triggered inside us when something happens that reacts with the message: THIS IS NOT FAIR. I AM NOT BEING RESPECTED!  So far, the experience of feeling angry is healthy. What follows as a behaviour will depend on your own sense of what you're worth. If you believe you are worth a lot, you will respond and manage the sit [ ... ]

Stay in Balance - body, mind, spirit We sometimes ignore the simple.  We are very special as a species in that we take a lifetime trying, and often failing, to juggle the three elements that need equal attention.  With the body, we can become obsessed or neglectful with sleep, exercise, food and drink.  There are specialists who make a living advising us how to sleep enough hours, shape and weigh our body mass, caution us as to what we allow int [ ... ]

 5 needs: connection, attunement, trust, autonomy, love and sexuality What brings us all together, whether young or old.  In each day of our lives, we hunger for these assurances that we are loved and cared for, that we belong and that we make a difference.  These needs can be experienced very differently but their absence withers our capacity and desire to live. Connection is reaching out and someone or something returns undivided attention.   [ ... ]

3 states we all experience - victim, survivor, warrior/ambassador of healing  If life is very difficult, we ask questions of ourselves.  What’s wrong with me? Why do I get trapped and stuck, not wanting to connect and engage?  This is ‘the victim’ zone and is a natural and understandable place to inhabit for a while.  Because I do have limitations and others might manage difficulties better and quicker.  But when we ask another question: â [ ... ]